Like many other people, I am constantly trying to set and achieve big goals. I have had the good fortune of finishing a couple (long races, great jobs) and am still working on others (finishing a book, moving to the mountains). And, with each goal, I notice more and more how absolutely necessary it is to protect a goal if I am ever going to have a shot at reaching it.
From the thoughts that tell me I am not good enough or don’t have what it takes to the times I fool myself into thinking that I am on easy street, goals can be lost or stolen at the drop of a hat. They can be taken away by time, forgotten or given up on very quickly and very easily.
Because of this, I have posted a couple of self-defense techniques that I keep available in my office for the times when I feel the goal slipping into the dark alley of forgotten dreams. This is not the exhaustive list, but just three for those right now moments when that goal or dream is in immediate danger.
1. Silence the negative thoughts with a chop to the throat.
The first waves negative thinking are, many times, going to be your own. If the don’t have time to form, it is hard for those thoughts to have an impact. Chopping them in the throat means finding something to do, RIGHT NOW. Instead of thinking about the goal, get started on something that will move you toward it. Negative thoughts happen when you are idle. Don’t give them a chance.
2. Scream to the top of your lungs so that others may come to your aid.
Never be afraid to ask for help. When things get rough, don’t be afraid to scream for it either. Too many times we suffer alone, not knowing that the person with the answer, word of encouragement or experience that we need is right around the corner. Goals need to be protected, and sometimes that requires us knowing that we can’t always to it alone.
3. Punch your ego in the groin and run away.
When an attacker is bigger than you, the groin is often the equalizing target. In the beginning, we often over-celebrate victories. With hands pumping in the air, people telling us how awesome we are doing, we forget that the next step is an even bigger challenge. Keep those arms down and the encouragement at bay with the realization that your end goal is still a long way off.
The best defense is always a good offense. So when you are struggling to keep hold of the dream, employ one of these defense techniques to get you working on something, working with someone, or just pulling yourself back on track in those dangerous moments of motivational lack.
Be brave out their my friends. Your goals need protected as they can be fragile. But, with the right techniques on trying times, you can keep them safely in your future line of achievement.